Tinker Bell Letter 1

Tinker Bell,

Over the last couple of days you have shown me that you don't really consider me a true friend and that you don't really know me.
My argument with you was not about the celebration of my birthday. When you said that you hadn't even thought about my birthday and that nothing was planned it hurt my feelings. Birthday's are a small celebration and when I plan things for everyone else, it is planned well in advance for everyone's schedules. You stated over and over that I wanted some elaborate birthday party and that you had spent tons of money on me in the past. I can't believe that you would even think that I would consider having people spend loads of money on me. Money is the last thing on my mind. Spending time with my friends is all I wanted. I'm sorry that it was too much for you to handle.

I didn't think it was too much to ask that you take two minutes of your busy schedule to call Lil Jap and thank her for the hundreds of dollars worth of baby stuff that she gave you. She is broke and could have sold that stuff at her garage sale to pay her bills. Instead her generosity was ignored too. In spite of the fact that you didn't call until I told you to, she still gave me more stuff to give you. RAB kept telling you that she had things for you too. Not once did you offer to pick up any of the things from RAB or Lil Jap. You put them in a position that they felt they had to bring everything to you. I would think that if people were offering to help you that you would make the effort to either accept it and pick it up yourself or say no thank you. RAB and Lil Jap are my friends and I would never let them treat you the way you treated them.

My husband and I have done everything for everyone. Birthdays, showers, taking care of people when they are sick, in the hospital, watching animals, everything...we are there for it. Once again I am the sucker. He does all of these things because these are MY friends. Once again we get stepped on and in return for our generosity we get ignored. This is the exact reason that my mother is not a part of our lives. We are done with people taking advantage of us and not even getting a thank you. We are tired of people not returning the generosity. No one has ever offered to watch our animals when we leave. No one has offered to throw parties at their house for us. No one has offered to come to the hospital to see me next week or help take care of me or the kids when I get out. We have been there for everyone else. Our schedules are rearranged to help others, no matter what. It's a shame that my friends and family don't have the same consideration.

I know you don't realize it, but others have mentioned it to me too, so I know I'm not the only one who feels this way. Since you started working for your boss you have become a different person. You have new "friends" at the office and in your new neighbors. You have little to no time for any of your old friends, but your social schedule is packed for everyone else. You have even skipped my kids birthdays because you had other plans. You know these two kids have a birthday once a year each. I would think that as their aunt you would mark that on your calendar and make the effort to be there. They love you and your husband and they notice when you are not there. Making up for your absence with expensive gifts is a cop out. Although everyone is thrilled that you are having a baby, we are also a little stunned that at two different parties you made announcements that turned all the attention to you and away from RAB and Lil Jap. Everyone was excited but felt that you could have made the effort to call people before or after and not take away from their moments. We are feeling that you are asking for a lot of attention but you are not willing to return it to anyone else.

I'm not perfect by any means, but at least I gave you the consideration of telling you when something upset me. Once again you are showing me that I'm not as important to you. You have made no effort to call me and tell me that your pissed off, confused or whatever you're feeling. You don't have to agree with how I feel and I don't have to agree with you, but the consideration of a phone call would show that at least you care enough to tell me how you feel.

According to Lil Jap, your boss plans on throwing you a baby shower, regardless of the fact that we were going to. My husband decided that we would not be throwing you a shower because nothing is reciprocated. It has nothing to do with money. He's pissed about this whole birthday thing and that no one has made any effort to help during and after my surgery. Except for The P's, who you decided
where not very good friends anyway and other people (who are not even close friends) who have been calling non-stop and offering help.

We won't be throwing your baby shower. You have plenty of new friends who are dying to do this for you, so it shouldn't be a problem to find another friend to use.

Thanks for showing me how much I meant to you after 21 years of friendship. Don't worry, you're not the only one that blew me off, my sister hasn't called either. Thanks.

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